Finding and keeping a wife is a good thing. However, in today’s society, it’s hard. In this post, I’ll share with you 4 tips on how to find a wife.
1. What is she wearing?
This is huge. How a woman dresses says a lot about her character and who she is as a person. She controls what she wears despite the latest fashion fads or what other people say. Her decisions are based on wisdom that comes from God. Wisdom that says “Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire,” (1 Timothy 2:9). And Wisdom that says, “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30). This women also has a tremendous understanding of how powerful her body is to a man. Consider Proverbs 5:18-19, “May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.” Wow! Women who have self-control put aside their pride by dressing modestly and honestly for the sake of saving their intoxicating powers their future husband. She places her hope in Christ and knows that her apparel is in line with what pleases her creator–God!
2. Can she manage finances?
A woman who knows how to handle her finances is huge to consider. Her money habits will carry over into your marriage, for better or for worse. A 2018 Ramsey Solution study concluded that “money fights are the second leading cause of divorce, behind infidelity” (see Money Ruining Marriages in America). If she doesn’ not know how to handle money it could become a massive problem in the long run! Look for a woman knows how to save, is not in debt, and has a financial plan for her future. She understands that a good financial plan for her money is also good for the legacy that she wants to leave behind to her children. The topic of money should definitely be discussed if you two are considering marriage at any point in the relationship.
3. How did she treat/respond to men?
Does a potential spouse bad mouth men? Are they disrespectful toward men? Does she gossip about their bad qualities? Is she unforgiving or men? A good woman understands that men have flaws. She further understands that men can be sensitive toward them and are able to honor and cherish women. The best way to see if a potential wife values man is to consider how she treats her father or her brother’s or any of the male role model in her life. She understands what her role is in a marriage and what it means to be submissive, for her husband will be held responsible for every decision that is made for the family–and not her. She understands what it is to respect a man and that men are to be the head of their household. Thus, she respects him for the responsibility he is to hold in a marriage.
4. Is she spiritual?
Does she read the Bible, have Christian friends, and/or go to church? A woman with a sound spiritual foundation has a great deal of wisdom. She reads and knows her Bible and understands that it’s God’s message to her and includes guidelines on how to become an honorable wife. She also understands the meaning of fellowship and being in communion with other Christians—as she understands that a Christian walk is not one where she must walk alone. Further, the only way to figure out if she is spiritual is that you yourself practice these principals and understand them for yourself.
There you have it, 4 tips on how to find a good wife! Remember that no woman single is perfect. If you sense that there is potential and that this woman gets her identity from her hope in God through Jesus Christ, then you can’t go wrong! She is fearless in a society that teaches her otherwise and she is courageous and knows that it is her destiny to go against the grain! My prayers as you find a good wife! Feel free to reach out if you have any questions, comments, or concerns.
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